NVC: Nonviolent Communication
Please listen to the following recording… starting at 31:00 minutes….
related to “HAVE TO” verbal declarations and the implications…
Dr Marshall Rosenberg, PhD.
Nonviolent Communication: (NVC)
..::” Every criticism, judgement, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.” ~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
..::” For thousands of years, we have been taught to think in a particular way designed to make us obedient to authority, but which is not conducive to safety and PEACE on our planet. ~Marshall Rosenberg … NVC
NVC teaches us how to express our feelings and needs in a constructive way. Its founder Marshall Rosenberg says that “Anger, depression, guilt and shame are all tragic expressions of unmet needs. They all promote violence on the planet, yet they are also an opportunity to transform our thinking. For thousands of years, we have been taught to think in a particular way designed to make us obedient to authority, but which is not conducive to safety and peace on our planet”. NVC equips us with skills and strategies to communicate openly and honestly, without judgements.
..::” To practice the process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want.” ~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
..::” When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.” ~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
..::” The Indian philosopher J. Krishnamurti once remarked that… “Observing without “EVALUATING” is the highest form of human intelligence.” When I first read this statement, the thought, –“What non sense!”– shot through my mind… even before I realized that I had just made an “EVALUATION”. ~ Marshall Rosenberg :: NVC ::
..::” For most of us… it is difficult to make OBSERVATIONS of people and their behavior that are free of JUDGMENT, criticism, or other forms of analysis… For THOUSANDS of years, we have been TAUGHT TO THINK in a particular way designed to make us OBEDIENT TO AUTHORITY … but which is not conducive to safety and PEACE on our PLANET. ~ Marshall Rosenberg :: NVC ::
– I read out-loud the following (one of two pages) to Lex and Marve :: April 16, 2015
“It is extremely hard for those who still believe -*sin meaningful*- to understand the Holy Spirit’s justice.
They must believe He shares their own confusion, and cannot avoid the vengeance that their own belief in justice must entail.
And so they fear the Holy Spirit, and perceive the “wrath” of God in Him.
Nor can they trust Him not to strike them dead with lightning bolts torn from the “fires” of Heaven by God’s Own angry Hand.
They [do] believe that Heaven is hell, and [are] afraid of love.
And deep suspicion and the chill of fear comes over them when they are told that they have never sinned.
Their world depends on sin’s stability.
And they perceive the “threat” of what God knows as justice to be more destructive to themselves and to their world than vengeance, which they understand and love.”
God’s Will is perfect healing. Joy is the natural outcome of trusting in God’s Will. God’s Will asks us to embody the knowing that we have everything because we are everything. It wants us to be living witnesses to our own incorruptible power in God’s Love, just as Jesus is. But we won’t know this in experience as long as we play the ego’s game.
Unconsciously, we fear the Will of God, because of our deeply mistaken un-relinquished belief we have sinned. Past experience reflects our expectation of the ego’s vengeance as punishment for these sins — all of which is brought on by our un-relinquished guilt as self-attack. Refusal to relinquish guilt is a choice we make. The punishment occurs by our own consent.
But the god we fear is the ego’s god of vengeance. As long as we choose to cling to guilt or blame in any form, it means we still revere the ego’s god of death. It must be that we are suspicious of guiltlessness; that without guilt and blame, we would forfeit our greatest defense against the ego’s god of vengeance. This way of looking at our sin, guilt and fear may help us better understand why it seems so difficult to surrender and forgive them. Without sin, guilt and fear, the ego counsels, we would be entirely defenseless against God’s all-consuming wrath!
It would be impossible to fear at all, if we did not secretly believe we have sinned and are guilty. This is the ego’s lie, of course. The certain result of sin (adjustments or grievances) is guilt, and the certain result of guilt is fear of punishment.
As this unconscious fear is continually projected outward as judgement toward the body, self, others and the world, it remains surrendered, un-forgiven. It then becomes an attraction to death, which must manifest. Physical death represents the ego’s most exalted form of punishment. All of this false belief, until courageously exhumed and released through forgiveness, drives our unconscious attraction to suffering.
It’s a vicious cycle. We believe we sinned, are therefore guilty, and fear the consequences. We project this fear without realizing that whatever we fear, we indeed attract. And instead of forgiving the real cause of our fear (guilt), we try to defend ourselves from the ego’s unconscious self-attack — which we ourselves projected. In this act, we unknowingly reinforce our guilt by making the ego’s projection real. And the cycle continues. This is why a continued belief in sin and guilt always leads to the ego’s ultimate goal of death.
The word “sin” in Hebrew is chet, and simply means “missing the mark.” It does not mean it is irrevocable, as the ego portrays it. Another interpretation of the word sin is forgetfulness, which more closely depicts what the Course teaches. Sin, in the ego’s eyes, is indisputable. And it needs you to believe this, to ensure you won’t relinquish your judgements and thus, your guilt. If you did, the ego thought system would disappear! Sin is the one thing in this world that appears it cannot be changed. Yet Jesus asks us, “What is immutable besides God’s Will?” “What wish can rise against His Will?” He says, “If you could realize nothing is changeless but the Will of God, this course would not be difficult for you.” All ideas of sin, guilt and fear can be healed, because they are not immutable and always remain open to the miracle in any instant we desire our perception to be healed.
The Will of God lives uninterrupted within us. When you allow a Holy Instant in which you suspend all fears, doubts, and judgements, you drop into the peace within. And in this moment of peace, the ego ceases to control you. In this moment of eternity outside time, your will is aligned with God’s Will. There is no interruption, and you allow a miracle. The miracle takes no time — it collapses it. Every True Loving desire in your heart is aligned with the Will of God. And God’s Love has been waiting for this precious Holy Instant, the one in which you are willing to accept and receive it.
Nouk Sanchez, 2014 “The End of Death” …..
RE: The paradox: “Die Before you die”….
… It’s a paradox, for example, “From death, comes life” – I Corinthians 15:36-38
… As is the “conversion” of a Christian – Romans 6:3-7 (From death, comes life)
… The principle of Christ’s death – Romans 5:18 (From death, comes life)
… A paradox: “To die before you die.” = death of the “ego, then you can be “born again” …
Carl Jung said it like this: “Where you stumble and fall, there you find pure gold.”
The ancient word “Fana” is the term for “passing away” … Fana means the breaking down of the individual ego and a recognition of our fundamental unity with God.
Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee :: This is one of the cornerstones of the spiritual path, and is encapsulated in the saying: “To die before you die.” ….. You see, most people wait until they physically die to go back home to God. But the truly devoted, driven by the soul’s homesickness, wants to experience going back Home to God consciously, in this life. And for this you have to go beyond your ego. This is what it means to “die before you die”.
… Fr. Richard Rohr says: “Sooner or later, some event, person, death, idea, or relationship will enter your life that you simply cannot deal with, using your present skill set, your acquired egoic knowledge, or your strong egoic willpower. Spiritually speaking, you will be, and you must be, led to the edge of your own private ego resources. At that point, you will stumble over a necessary “stumbling stone”, as Isaiah calls it (Isaiah 8:14)
…::”who-so-ever will lose his life… for my sake…. shall find it” … ~ Jesus
Matthew 16:24-27 is our text for this lesson: “Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?
… that was the first half of my intended reading for Lex and Marve :: April 16, 2015
– i will read the following 2nd half to Lex and Marve :: May 21, 2015
Note: Marve did not arrive May 21st… and has not returned yet, so i will read the following to him when he returns… as he tells me in each phone call, he has a lot to communicate, when we get together…
ACIM LESSON 182 :: “I will be still an instant and go home.
1 This world you seem to live in is not home to you. And somewhere in your mind you know that this is true. A memory of home keeps haunting you, as if there were a place that called you to return, although you do not recognize the voice, nor what it is the voice reminds you of. Yet still you feel an alien here, from somewhere all unknown. Nothing so definite that you could say with certainty you are an exile here. Just a persistent feeling, sometimes not more than a tiny throb, at other times hardly remembered, actively dismissed, but surely to return to mind again.
2 No one but knows whereof we speak. Yet some try to put by their suffering in games they play to occupy their time, and keep their sadness from them. Others will deny that they are sad, and do not recognize their tears at all. Still others will maintain that what we speak of is illusion, not to be considered more than but a dream. Yet who, in simple honesty, without defensiveness and self-deception, would deny he understands the words we speak?
3 We speak today for everyone who walks this world, for he is not at home. He goes uncertainly about in endless search, seeking in darkness what he cannot find; not recognizing what it is he seeks. A thousand homes he makes, yet none contents his restless mind. He does not understand he builds in vain. The home he seeks can not be made by him. There is no substitute for Heaven. All he ever made was hell.
4 Perhaps you think it is your childhood home that you would find again. The childhood of your body, and its place of shelter, are a memory now so distorted that you merely hold a picture of a past that never happened. Yet there is a Child in you Who seeks His Father’s house, and knows that He is alien here. This childhood is eternal, with an innocence that will endure forever. Where this Child shall go is holy ground. It is His Holiness that lights up Heaven, and that brings to earth the pure reflection of the light above, wherein are earth and Heaven joined as one.
5 It is this Child in you your Father knows as His Own Son. It is this Child Who knows His Father. He desires to go home so deeply, so unceasingly, His voice cries unto you to let Him rest a while. He does not ask for more than just a few instants of respite; just an interval in which He can return to breathe again the holy air that fills His Father’s house. You are His home as well. He will return. But give Him just a little time to be Himself, within the peace that is His home, resting in silence and in peace and love.
6 This Child needs your protection. He is far from home. He is so little that He seems so easily shut out, His tiny voice so readily obscured, His call for help almost unheard amid the grating sounds and harsh and rasping noises of the world. Yet does He know that in you still abides His sure protection. You will fail Him not. He will go home, and you along with Him.
7 This Child is your defenselessness; your strength. He trusts in you. He came because He knew you would not fail. He whispers of His home unceasingly to you. For He would bring you back with Him, that He Himself might stay, and not return again where He does not belong, and where He lives an outcast in a world of alien thoughts. His patience has no limits. He will wait until you hear His gentle Voice within you, calling you to let Him go in peace, along with you, to where He is at home and you with Him.
8 When you are still an instant, when the world recedes from you, when valueless ideas cease to have value in your restless mind, then will you hear His Voice. So poignantly He calls to you that you will not resist Him longer. In that instant He will take you to His home, and you will stay with Him in perfect stillness, silent and at peace, beyond all words, untouched by fear and doubt, sublimely certain that you are at home.
9 Rest with Him frequently today. For He was willing to become a little Child that you might learn of Him how strong is he who comes without defenses, offering only love’s messages to those who think he is their enemy. He holds the might of Heaven in His hand and calls them friend, and gives His strength to them, that they may see He would be Friend to them. He asks that they protect Him, for His home is far away, and He will not return to it alone.
10 Christ is reborn as but a little Child each time a wanderer would leave his home. For he must learn that what he would protect is but this Child, Who comes defenseless and Who is protected by defenselessness. Go home with Him from time to time today. You are as much an alien here as He.
11 Take time today to lay aside your shield which profits nothing, and lay down the spear and sword you raised against an enemy without existence. Christ has called you friend and brother. He has even come to ask your help in letting Him go home today, completed and completely. He has come as does a little child, who must beseech his father for protection and for love. He rules the universe, and yet He asks unceasingly that you return with Him, and take illusions as your gods no more.
12 You have not lost your innocence. It is for this you yearn. This is your heart’s desire. This is the voice you hear, and this the call which cannot be denied. The holy Child remains with you. His home is yours. Today He gives you His defenselessness, and you accept it in exchange for all the toys of battle you have made. And now the way is open, and the journey has an end in sight at last. Be still an instant and go home with Him, and be at peace a while.
— end of “ACIM reading” — intended for communication with Marve when he returns…
— the following ACIM quotes are related to conversations with Lex…
..::” ONLY the self-accused condemn.” … As you prepare to make a choice that will result in different outcomes, there is first one thing that must be overlearned… It must become a habit of response so typical of everything you do that it becomes your first response to all temptation, and to every situation that occurs… Learn this, and learn it well, for it is here delay of happiness is shortened by a span of time you cannot realize… You never hate your brother for his sins, but only for your own… Whatever form his sins appear to take, it but obscures the fact that you believe them to be yours, and therefore MERITING A “JUST” ATTACK.
~ ACIM Text – Chapter 31. III.
LESSON 276 :: The Word of God is given me to speak.
What is the Word of God? “My Son is pure and holy as Myself. ” And thus did God become the Father of the Son He loves, for thus was he created. This the Word His Son did not create with Him, because in this His Son was born. Let us accept His Fatherhood, and all is given us. Deny we were created in His Love and we deny our Self, to be unsure of Who we are, of Who our Father is, and for what purpose we have come. And yet, we need but to acknowledge Him Who gave His Word to us in our creation, to remember Him and so recall our Self.(prayer) Father, Your Word is mine. And it is this that I would speak to all my brothers, who are given me to cherish as my own, as I am loved and blessed and saved by You. http://www.old.circleofa.org/course_miracles/W-pII.276.php
Chapter 24 : THE GOAL OF SPECIALNESS
V. The Christ in You
The Christ in you is very still. He looks on what He loves, and knows it as Himself. And thus does He rejoice at what He sees, because He knows that it is one with Him and with His Father. Specialness, too, takes joy in what it sees, although it is not true. Yet what you seek for is a source of joy as you conceive it. What you wish is true for you. Nor is it possible that you can wish for something and lack faith that it is so. Wishing makes real, as surely as does will create. The power of a wish upholds illusions as strongly as does love extend itself. Except that one deludes; the other heals.
There is no dream of specialness, however hidden or disguised the form, however lovely it may seem to be, however much it delicately offers the hope of peace and the escape from pain, in which you suffer not your condemnation. In dreams effect and cause are interchanged, for here the maker of the dream believes that what he made is happening to him. He does not realize he picked a thread from here, a scrap from there, and wove a picture out of nothing. For the parts do not belong together, and the whole contributes nothing to the parts to give them meaning.
Where could your peace arise but from forgiveness? The Christ in you looks only on the truth, and sees no condemnation that could need forgiveness. He is at peace because He sees no sin. Identify with Him, and what has He that you have not? He is your eyes, your ears, your hands, your feet. How gentle are the sights He sees, the sounds He hears. How beautiful His hand that holds His brother’s, and how lovingly He walks beside him, showing him what can be seen and heard, and where he will see nothing and there is no sound to hear.
Yet let your specialness direct his way, and you will follow. And both will walk in danger, each intent, in the dark forest of the sightless, unlit but by the shifting tiny gleams that spark an instant from the fireflies of sin and then go out, to lead the other to a nameless precipice and hurl him over it. For what can specialness delight in but to kill? What does it seek for but the sight of death? Where does it lead but to destruction? Yet think not that it looked upon your brother first, nor hated him before it hated you. The sin its eyes behold in him and love to look upon it saw in you, and looks on still with joy. Yet is it joy to look upon decay and madness, and believe this crumbling thing, with flesh already loosened from the bone and sightless holes for eyes, is like yourself?
Rejoice you have no eyes with which to see; no ears to listen, and no hands to hold nor feet to guide. Be glad that only Christ can lend you His, while you have need of them. They are illusions, too, as much as yours. And yet because they serve a different purpose, the strength their purpose holds is given them. And what they see and hear and hold and lead is given light, that you may lead as you were led.
The Christ in you is very still. He knows where you are going, and He leads you there in gentleness and blessing all the way. His Love for God replaces all the fear you thought you saw within yourself. His holiness shows you Himself in him whose hand you hold, and whom you lead to Him. And what you see is like yourself. For what but Christ is there to see and hear and love and follow home? He looked upon you first, but recognized that you were not complete. And so He sought for your completion in each living thing that He beholds and loves. And seeks it still, that each might offer you the Love of God.
Yet is He quiet, for He knows that love is in you now, and safely held in you by that same hand that holds your brother’s in your own. Christ’s hand holds all His brothers in Himself. He gives them vision for their sightless eyes, and sings to them of Heaven, that their ears may hear no more the sound of battle and of death. He reaches through them, holding out His hand, that everyone may bless all living things, and see their holiness. And He rejoices that these sights are yours, to look upon with Him and share His joy. His perfect lack of specialness He offers you, that you may save, all living things from death, receiving from each one the gift of life that your forgiveness offers to your Self. The sight of Christ is all there is to see. The song of Christ is all there is to hear. The hand of Christ is all there is to hold. There is no journey but to walk with Him.
You who would be content with specialness, and seek salvation in a war with love, consider this: The holy Lord of Heaven has Himself come down to you, to offer you your own completion. What is His is yours because in your completion is His Own. He Who willed not to be without His Son could never will that you be brotherless. And would He give a brother unto you except he be as perfect as yourself, and just as like to Him in holiness as you must be?
There must be doubt before there can be conflict. And every doubt must be about yourself. Christ has no doubt, and from His certainty His quiet comes. He will exchange His certainty for all your doubts, if you agree that He is One with you, and that this Oneness is endless, timeless, and within your grasp because your hands are His. He is within you, yet He walks beside you and before, leading the way that He must go to find Himself complete. His quietness becomes your certainty. And where is doubt when certainty has come?
Chapter 22: SALVATION AND THE HOLY RELATIONSHIP
T-22.II.1. Your Brother’s Sinlessness
The opposite of illusions is not disillusionment, but truth. Only to the ego, to which truth is meaningless, do they appear to be the only alternatives, and different from each other. In truth, they are the same. Both bring the same amount of misery, though each one seems to be the way to lose the misery the other brings. Every illusion carries pain and suffering in the dark folds of the heavy garments with which it hides its nothingness. Yet, in these dark and heavy garments, are those who seek illusions covered, and hidden from the joy of truth. Truth is the opposite of illusions, because it offers joy. What else but joy could be the opposite of misery? To leave one kind of misery and seek another, is hardly an escape.
To change illusions is to make no change. The search for joy in misery is senseless. For how could joy be found in misery? All that is possible in the dark world of misery is to select some aspects out of it, see them as different, and define the difference as joy. Yet to perceive a difference where none exists will surely fail to MAKE a difference. Illusions carry only guilt and suffering, sickness and death, to their believers.
The form in which they are accepted is irrelevant. No form of misery, in reason’s eyes, can be confused with joy. Joy is eternal. You can be sure indeed that any seeming happiness which does not last is really fear. Joy does not turn to sorrow, for the eternal cannot change. But sorrow CAN be turned to joy, for time gives way to the eternal. Only the timeless must remain unchanged. But everything in time can change with time. Yet, if the change be real and not imagined, illusions must give way to truth, and not to other dreams which are but equally unreal. This is no difference. Reason will tell you that the only way to escape from misery is to recognize it, AND GO THE OTHER WAY. Truth is the same and misery the same, but they ARE different from each other. In every way, in every instance, and without exception.
To believe that one exception can exist, is to confuse what is the same with what is different. ONE illusion cherished and defended against the truth, makes ALL truth meaningless and ALL illusions real. Such is the power of belief. It cannot compromise. And faith in innocence is faith in sin, if the belief excludes one living thing, and holds it out, apart from its forgiveness. Both reason and the ego will tell you this. But what they MAKE of it is not the same.
The ego will assure you now it is impossible for you to see no guilt in anyone. And if this vision is the ONLY means by which escape from guilt can be attained, then the belief in sin must be eternal. Yet reason looks on this another way. For reason sees the SOURCE of an idea as what will make it true or false. This must be so, if the idea is LIKE its source. Therefore, says reason, if escape from guilt was given to the Holy Spirit as His purpose, and by One to Whom nothing He wills CAN be impossible, the means for its attainment are MORE than possible. They must be there, and you must HAVE them. This is a crucial period in this course. For here, the separation of you and the ego must be made complete. For, if you HAVE the means to let the Holy Spirit’s purpose be accomplished, they can be used. And, THROUGH their use, will you gain faith in them.
Yet, to the ego, they must be impossible, and no-one undertakes to do what holds no hope of ever being done. You know what your Creator wills is possible. But what you made believes it is not so. Now must you choose between yourself and the ILLUSION of yourself. NOT both, but ONE.
There is no point in trying to avoid this one decision. It MUST be made. Faith and belief can fall to either side, but reason tells you that misery lies only on one side, and joy upon the other. Forsake not now each other. For you who are the same will not decide alone, or differently. Either you give each other life or death; either you are each other’s Savior or his judge, offering him sanctuary or condemnation. This course will be believed entirely, or not at all. For it is wholly true or wholly false, and cannot be but partially believed. And you will either escape from misery entirely, or not at all.
Reason will tell you that there is no middle ground where you can pause uncertainly, waiting to choose between the joy of Heaven and the misery of hell. Until you choose Heaven, you ARE in hell and misery. There is no part of Heaven you can take, and weave into illusions. Nor is there one illusion you can enter Heaven with. A Savior cannot be a judge, nor mercy condemnation. And vision cannot damn, but only bless. Whose function is to save, will save. HOW He will do it is beyond your understanding, but WHEN must be your choice. For time you made, and time you CAN command. You are no more a slave to time than to the world you made.
Let us look closer at the whole illusion that what you made has power to enslave its maker. This is the same belief that caused the separation. It is the meaningless idea that thoughts can leave the thinker’s mind, be different from it, and IN OPPOSITION to it. If this were true, thoughts would not be the mind’s extensions, but its enemies. And here we see again another form of the same fundamental illusion we have seen many times before. Only if it were possible the Son of God could leave his Father’s Mind, make himself different, and oppose His Will, would it be possible that the self he made, and all it made, should be his master.
Behold the great projection, but look on it with the decision that it must be healed, and not with fear. Nothing you made has any power over you, unless you still would be apart from your Creator, with a will opposed to His. For only if you would believe His Son could be His enemy, does it seem possible that what YOU made is yours. You would condemn His joy to misery, and make Him different. And all the misery you made has been your own. Are you not GLAD to learn it is not true? Is it not welcome news to hear not one of the illusions that you made replaced the truth?
Only YOUR thoughts have been impossible. Salvation CANNOT be. It IS impossible to look upon your Savior as your enemy, and recognize him. Yet it IS possible to recognize him for what he is, if God would have it so. What God has given to your holy relationship is THERE. For what He gave the Holy Spirit to give to you, He GAVE. Would you not look upon the Savior Who has been given you? And would you not exchange, in gratitude and gladness, the function of an executioner you gave him for the one he has in truth? Receive of him what God has given him for you, not what you tried to give.
Beyond the bodies that you interposed between you, and shining in the golden light that reaches it from the bright endless circle that extends forever, is your holy relationship, beloved of God, and holy as Himself. How still it rests, in time and yet beyond, immortal yet on earth. How great the power that lies in it. Time waits upon its will, and earth will be as it would have it be. Here is no separate will, nor the desire that ANYTHING be separate. Its will has no exceptions, and what it wills is true. Every illusion brought to its forgiveness is gently overlooked, and disappears. For, at its center, Christ has been reborn, to light His home with vision that overlooks the world.
Would you not have this holy home be yours as well? No misery is here but only joy. All you need do to dwell in quiet here with Christ is share His vision. Quickly and gladly is His vision given to anyone who is but willing to see his brother sinless. And no-one CAN remain beyond this willingness, if you would be released entirely from all effects of sin. Would you have partial forgiveness for yourself? Can you reach Heaven while a single sin still tempts you to remain in misery? Heaven is the home of perfect purity. And God created it for YOU. Look at your holy brother, sinless as yourself, and let him lead you there.CourseInMiracles.com/urtext/chapters-22-thru-31/chapter-22/section-3
This following is the part of ACIM that i read at mom’s funeral services in October of 2013
Chapter 14. TEACHING FOR TRUTH
V. The Circle of Atonementhttp://www.circleofa.org/course_miracles/T-14.V.php
T-14.V.1. The only part of your mind that has reality is the part that links you still with God. 2 Would you have all of it transformed into a radiant message of God’s Love, to share with all the lonely ones who have denied Him? 3 God makes this possible. 4 Would you deny His yearning to be known? 5 You yearn for Him, as He for you. 6 This is forever changeless. 7 Accept, then, the immutable. 8 Leave the world of death behind, and return quietly to Heaven. 9 There is nothing of value here, and everything of value there. 10 Listen to the Holy Spirit, and to God through Him. 11 He speaks of you to you. 12 There is no guilt in you, for God is blessed in His Son as the Son is blessed in Him.
T-14.V.2. Everyone has a special part to play in the Atonement, but the message given to each one is always the same; God’s Son is guiltless. 2 Each one teaches the message differently, and learns it differently. 3 Yet until he teaches it and learns it, he will suffer the pain of dim awareness that his true function remains unfulfilled in him. 4 The burden of guilt is heavy, but God would not have you bound by it. 5 His plan for your awaking is as perfect as yours is fallible. 6 You know not what you do, but He Who knows is with you. 7 His gentleness is yours, and all the love you share with God He holds in trust for you. 8 He would teach you nothing except how to be happy.
T-14.V.3. Blessed Son of a wholly blessing Father, joy was created for you. 2 Who can condemn whom God has blessed? 3 There is nothing in the Mind of God that does not share His shining innocence. 4 Creation is the natural extension of perfect purity. 5 Your only calling here is to devote yourself, with active willingness, to the denial of guilt in all its forms. 6 To accuse is not to understand. 7 The happy learners of the Atonement become the teachers of the innocence that is the right of all that God created. 8 Deny them not what is their due, for you will not withhold it from them alone.
T-14.V.4. The inheritance of the Kingdom is the right of God’s Son, given him in his creation. 2 Do not try to steal it from him, or you will ask for guilt and will experience it. 3 Protect his purity from every thought that would steal it away and keep it from his sight. 4 Bring innocence to light, in answer to the call of the Atonement. 5 Never allow purity to remain hidden, but shine away the heavy veils of guilt within which the Son of God has hidden himself from his own sight.
T-14.V.5. We are all joined in the Atonement here, and nothing else can unite us in this world. 2 So will the world of separation slip away, and full communication be restored between the Father and the Son. 3 The miracle acknowledges the guiltlessness that must have been denied to produce the need of healing. 4 Do not withhold this glad acknowledgment, for hope of happiness and release from suffering of every kind lie in it. 5 Who is there but wishes to be free of pain? 6 He may not yet have learned how to exchange guilt for innocence, nor realize that only in this exchange can freedom from pain be his. 7 Yet those who have failed to learn need teaching, not attack. 8 To attack those who have need of teaching is to fail to learn from them.
T-14.V.6. Teachers of innocence, each in his own way, have joined together, taking their part in the unified curriculum of the Atonement. 2 There is no unity of learning goals apart from this. 3 There is no conflict in this curriculum, which has one aim however it is taught. 4 Each effort made on its behalf is offered for the single purpose of release from guilt, to the eternal glory of God and His creation. 5 And every teaching that points to this points straight to Heaven, and the peace of God. 6 There is no pain, no trial, no fear that teaching this can fail to overcome. 7 The power of God Himself supports this teaching, and guarantees its limitless results.
T-14.V.7. Join your own efforts to the power that cannot fail and must result in peace. 2 No one can be untouched by teaching such as this. 3 You will not see yourself beyond the power of God if you teach only this. 4 You will not be exempt from the effects of this most holy lesson, which seeks but to restore what is the right of God’s creation. 5 From everyone whom you accord release from guilt you will inevitably learn your innocence. 6 The circle of Atonement has no end. 7 And you will find ever-increasing confidence in your safe inclusion in the circle with everyone you bring within its safety and its perfect peace.
T-14.V.8. Peace, then, be unto everyone who becomes a teacher of peace. 2 For peace is the acknowledgment of perfect purity, from which no one is excluded. 3 Within its holy circle is everyone whom God created as His Son. 4 Joy is its unifying attribute, with no one left outside to suffer guilt alone. 5 The power of God draws everyone to its safe embrace of love and union. 6 Stand quietly within this circle, and attract all tortured minds to join with you in the safety of its peace and holiness. 7 Abide with me within it, as a teacher of Atonement, not of guilt.
T-14.V.9. Blessed are you who teach with me. 2 Our power comes not of us, but of our Father. 3 In guiltlessness we know Him, as He knows us guiltless. 4 I stand within the circle, calling you to peace. 5 Teach peace with me, and stand with me on holy ground. 6 Remember for everyone your Father’s power that He has given him. 7 Believe not that you cannot teach His perfect peace. 8 Stand not outside, but join with me within. 9 Fail not the only purpose to which my teaching calls you. 10 Restore to God His Son as He created him, by teaching him his innocence.
T-14.V.10. The crucifixion had no part in the Atonement. 2 Only the resurrection became my part in it. 3 That is the symbol of the release from guilt by guiltlessness. 4 Whom you perceive as guilty you would crucify. 5 Yet you restore guiltlessness to whomever you see as guiltless. 6 Crucifixion is always the ego’s aim. 7 It sees everyone as guilty, and by its condemnation it would kill. 8 The Holy Spirit sees only guiltlessness, and in His gentleness He would release from fear and re-establish the reign of love. 9 The power of love is in His gentleness, which is of God and therefore cannot crucify nor suffer crucifixion. 10 The temple you restore becomes your altar, for it was rebuilt through you. 11 And everything you give to God is yours. 12 Thus He creates, and thus must you restore.
T-14.V.11. Each one you see you place within the holy circle of Atonement or leave outside, judging him fit for crucifixion or for redemption. 2 If you bring him into the circle of purity, you will rest there with him. 3 If you leave him without, you join him there. 4 Judge not except in quietness which is not of you. 5 Refuse to accept anyone as without the blessing of Atonement, and bring him into it by blessing him. 6 Holiness must be shared, for therein lies everything that makes it holy. 7 Come gladly to the holy circle, and look out in peace on all who think they are outside. 8 Cast no one out, for here is what he seeks along with you. 9 Come, let us join him in the holy place of peace which is for all of us, united as one within the Cause of peace.
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“When you begin to see that your enemy is suffering,
that is the beginning of insight.”
― Thích Nhất Hạnh
Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the Courage to change the things I can
and the Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.
Taking, as He did, this “(egoistic) / (sinful)” world as it is, not as I would have it.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life (world),
and supremely happy with Him forever in the next.
San Damiano Song
From the Film: Brother Sun, Sister Moon
Lyrics by: Donovan
Heartfelt work grows purely.
Simple joys are holy.
You’ll know heaven’s glory.
Audio Interview with Dr. Anthony T. Browder
..::” When you see something in another and its STRESSFUL to you… that’s a sign that its still inside you.
If you see it and are at PEACE with it… that’s a sign that you’ve taken care of it.
~ Byron Katie
The Prayer of Saint Francis
Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.
O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console,
To be understood as to understand,
To be loved as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
It is in dying to self that we are born to eternal life.
~♥~ God …. grant me the to serenity…. to accept the things i can not change …
Article by Julie Hanks, LCSW
Q: Are narcissists actually emotionally weak people?
A: Extremely weak and very scared inside. They are a lot like the Wizard of Oz – a very fragile person hiding behind a big scary fake identity. They become dangerous and cruel when you threaten their false ego, facade, because it is too important to them to keep up the act, and they don’t know how to be real.
Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Are_narcissists_actually_emotionally_weak_people#ixzz1y1kNtbYH
Q: Can a pathological narcissist ever love?
Lust, maybe – but that lust is more grounded in the realms of money, financial status-related, or an intellectual conquest.
Love requires giving of the self in a selfless way – a Narcissist is ALWAYS in it for what they can get out of it when it comes to giving.
They will condition you or try to pull admiration and appreciation out of you with what they give.
Also, in order to love someone else and accept them for who they are you have to be able to accept yourself! The narcissist only accepts the mask they show the world, not their true self. And they don’t even see you as another human – to them, you are just an object to be manipulated.
Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Can_a_pathological_narcissist_ever_love#ixzz1y1jUegIx
Q: If Narcissists are pathological liars do they know they are lying or is it the disease?
A: I think that both is true. I believe they know they are lying, they just deny it to themselves. To do so helps them to keep up the manipulation of their partner and also the fantasy world they create for themselves.The denial suppresses their conscience and eventually snuffs it out altogether.
Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/If_Narcissists_are_pathological_liars_do_they_know_they_are_lying_or_is_it_the_disease#ixzz1y1k1YiVd
Narcissistic parents :: control and demand specific behaviors from their children because they see the children as extensions of themselves, and need the children to represent them in the world in ways that meet the parents’ emotional needs.
This parenting ‘style’ most often results in estranged relationships with the children, coupled with feelings of resentment and self-destructive tendencies and behaviors.
Spiritual Narcissism :: describes mistakes “seekers” commit that become the pursuit of “spirituality” into another ego-building and confusion-creating endeavor. Ego development becomes an escape of spiritual awareness.
Sexual Narcissism :: has been described as an egocentric pattern of behavior that involves an inflated sense of ego entitlement. In addition, sexual narcissism is compulsive erotic and sexual preoccupation with oneself and a desire to merge sexually with oneself. Sexual narcissism is in fact an intimacy dysfunction, in which sexual exploits are subconsciously and compulsively imagined and pursued, generally in the form of extramarital affairs, to overcompensate for the pain of low self-worth and an inability to work honestly within one relationship.
ACIM: You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who even looks at another “lustfully” has already committed adultery, in his heart. (Matt. 5:27-28, NIV)
As Jesus said, “Thou shalt not kill,” he made it even more stringent by applying it not only to the behavior, but even to the “thought” inspiring the behavior.
And here again, in ACIM Course material goes in the same direction as the historical Jesus. The Course always encourages “self-control” / “ego-control”, regarding our actions and especially our sexual behaviors, but goes much further, saying that ultimately “the underlying mechanism must be uprooted.” We must ultimately undo the sexual impulse itself – or, to express the point more accurately, we must allow it to be transformed back into the miracle seed it really is, if we want to know God in Truth.
To clarify this point, let me draw more from Course material on sex. In its view, “All real pleasure comes from doing God’s Will.” More specifically, all interpersonal pleasure comes from acting upon the miracle impulses deep within our minds – from extending miracles to one another. While this extension of miracles often takes the form of kind and loving behaviors, it is at the “heart” in joining of Spiritual Life. This, and only this, is true interpersonal joining.
But the ego, in its effort to keep true Spiritual joining from ever happening, has transformed these miracle impulses to sexual impulses, “misdirected miracle-impulses.” Now, instead of joining Spiritual minds through miracles, the ego will tempt to join bodies through compulsive sexual fantasies. Now, instead of two people seeing each other as holy Sons of God, “Both people are perceived essentially as physical ‘objects’ to be used in fulfilling their parasitic pleasure drives.” If thought of, the ego has succeeded in averting real joining of Spiritual minds by replacing it with a false-joining of bodies.
The answer, as I said, is that we must allow our sexual impulses to be transformed back into miracle impulses. We can do this through our ongoing Course practice, including the practice Jesus himself gives us in this material about sex: “Invite Me to enter anywhere temptation arises. I will change the situation from one of inappropriate sexual attraction to one of impersonal miracle-working.”
And perhaps with this topic more than any other, it is important to stress that following this injunction, or at least moving in its direction as well as we can, is not an act of giving up our fun for the sake of appeasing a stern God or earning some future reward. Throughout its pages, the Course tells us that physical pleasure is not even truly pleasurable, so letting go of our quest for it is really letting go of nothing: “The Holy Spirit does not demand you sacrifice the hope of the body’s pleasure; it has no hope of pleasure” (T-19.IV.B.3:5). In the Course’s view, then, transforming our sexual impulses into miracle impulses is for our happiness right now. Again, all real pleasure comes from doing God’s Will, which means miracle working.
Our true yearning is to genuinely join with one another and, we are told emphatically, “Physical closeness cannot achieve this.” I think we all realize this in our hearts; as much as we may enjoy sex, have we not found that without true, body-transcending love for each other, it is an empty, superficial “pleasure” that leaves us lonelier than ever? Why not let go of an attempt at joining that is doomed to failure, and reclaim the miracle impulses that alone give us the true and joyful joining we really want?
~♥~ God …. grant me the to serenity…. to accept the things i can not change …